What’s Your Parenting Superpower? (Yes, You Have One)

It’s easy to rattle off all the ways we think we’re failing as parents.

We worry we’re too soft, too reactive, too controlling, too distant.
We replay past conversations and wish we had said it differently.
We focus on what isn’t working and forget to notice what is.

But here’s what I want you to ask yourself today:

What is your number one strength as a parent?

Take a breath. Really think about it.
Because you do have one. Probably more than one.

Let me go first.

My parenting superpower is listening without judgment.

My kids know, deep down, that there is nothing they could say or do that would make me love them less. They know they don’t need to perform, impress, or meet certain standards in order to receive my attention or acceptance.

They are not here to live a life that pleases me.
They are here to be themselves.
And my role is to love and support them,  not to judge them.

I learned this from my own parent. I was lucky to grow up with a mom who made it safe for me to be fully human, even when I was struggling or unsure of myself.

Now, I get to offer that same safe space to my five children. Even in their 20s. Especially in their 20s.

Why Your Strengths Matter (Even If You Forget Them)

The work of parenting an emerging adult is not like parenting a young child but it  can still feel endless. And let’s be honest, it rarely comes with immediate feedback or rewards. You may not hear “thank you” or see the results of your presence right away.

But your strengths matter.

The calm way you listen.
The way you advocate.
Your sense of humor.
Your willingness to grow.
Your ability to apologize and repair.

All of it is shaping the foundation they stand on, even when they’re wobbly.

You’re Not Failing. You’re Learning.

Next time your inner critic starts up, I want you to pause and ask:
What am I doing well in this relationship right now?
What strength of mine is making a difference, even if it’s subtle?

We’re so quick to name the ways we think we’re messing it all up. Let’s be just as quick to name what we’re doing right.

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