Parents often come to me feeling completely overwhelmed by the relationship they have with their emerging adult.

They are trying to manage the mood swings, influence decisions, solve problems, and motivate progress. They are carrying emotional stress, financial pressure, and the constant worry that...

Someone needs to hear this right now, so I’m just going to say it plainly:

Stop funding the phone.

If you have a 20-something under your roof whose days and nights are flipped…
who is under- or unemployed…
who is smoking weed to cope with anxiety…
who spends hours scrolling while life passes by…

And...

Parents ask me all the time:

“How do I fix my stay-at-home son?”
“How do I fix my stuck daughter?”

Here’s the honest answer: You don’t. You can’t “fix” an adult.

But you can fix the dynamic that’s keeping them stuck, and that starts with you, not them.

If your emerging adult is:

• Sleeping all d...